Thursday, October 30, 2014

I was born this way....Not!

People blame their actions on this is how I am


This is not true... this is how you chose to be.  Actions have nothing to do with your personality.

Personality is how you react and feel, how you think and see things, what you like and dislike.

Being lazy is a choice, you choose not to do something.

Being and asshole is also a choice, you can control how you react, and what you say, that isn't even hard to do.

Cheating is a choice, flirting as well.  Cursing, eating, drinking.  Every action we take as human beings is a choice made only by ourselves.

Then you hear people say, he forced me to to this or that, or it is her fault that I did this or that.  Still your choice.  

Nobody can force you or make you do anything if it isn't your choice.

Stop blaming everything else for being a slut, lazy ass or fucknut.


 

 

Are you selfish

Selfish people die alone


Whether you are in denial or not, most recognize the hints that they are selfish.

Behavior that confirm you are selfish :

1. If you think you deserve to be canonized as a Saint, then you are selfish. The desire to have others know you, revere you, and recognize you is a self-focused desire. You will be truly selfless if someone offers to canonize you and you turn down that offer by saying, “Oh, no, this other person deserves it and would benefit from that a lot more than I would. Please give this other person the honor. I do not deserve it or need it.” This holds true for any title of recognition.

2. Selflessness breeds happiness. Selfishness breeds unhappiness. If you are angry, worried, guilty, frustrated, depressed, envious, or jealous, you are probably focusing on yourself and your own needs and not on the needs of others. As soon as you stop focusing on yourself and start focusing on others, you will find that your negative feelings evaporate.

3. Giving and sharing do not come easily to you. If giving your time rather to other people that to your own interest is effort, you are only focusing on your own needs.  

4. Putting your partner's needs first — before your own — is very difficult.  When you cannot put aside you own hobbies or interest to do something for someone else.  When it is more important to listen to music that to your girlfriend or friend.  When chores are put last of the list of your things to do.

5. You hear constructive criticism as personal attacks.  When you get angry if someone talks to you about things you do wrong, or aren't doing at all.  When you see a conversation as a fight and take the attitude of "nothing i do is right in your eyes".

6. Blaming others to Justify Your Own Bad Behavior.  When you always find a reason or excuse for a certain action, lack of action or behavior.  You are never wrong and take everything personally.  I do this because you did the same or etc.


Tuesday, October 28, 2014

Living together

Living together


Times may have changed , but there are still people that have this belief that Men have power and woman should obey.

Yes well if that makes you and your partner happy, i guess there is no problem.

But actually that is pretty sexist !

That stupid belief comes from people who interpret the Bible wrong and believe just what suites them.

Submissive is the culprit  word that got the whole world believing that men are superior.

Men don't marry Woman for love, they marry them to have another mommy.  Don't get me wrong, I am referring to those who do hold on to this stupid belief.

Where did you ever read that a woman should cook, clean, raise children and be the maid ?

I didn't read that anywhere that is worth reading anyhow.

How is it fair that a woman also work the whole day just like the man, but there is expected of her to then, cook, wash the dishes and help the children with homework, etc......... While the man is comfortably lounging in front of the TV or playing on his phone or whatever.

That is just lazy..... needs a mommy to look after him....shame

You are grown up enough to make your own food, pick up your own clothes and wash them as well, you aren't disabled.

In fact if you weren't living with a woman and not living with your mother you would have had to do those things anyway.  By yourself like a big boy.

It is not a woman's job to mother you,  It is not a woman's job to think for you and it is not a woman's job to clean after your lazy ass.   

If you can't think for yourself like the lawn needs to be mowed or the clothes aren't going to wash themselves, then move back in with your mother.


Thursday, October 23, 2014

Porn



What Brain Scans Tell Us

Cambridge Neuropsychiatrist Valerie Voon was featured last year in the UK documentary Porn on the Brain. Her research demonstrates that the brains of habitual porn users show great similarity to the brains of alcoholics. A brain structure called the ventral striatum plays a significant role in the reward system of the brain—the pleasure pathways. It is the same part of the brain that “lights up” when an alcoholic sees a picture of a drink.
Dr. William Struthers, author of Wired for Intimacy, sounds a similar alarm, teaching that viewing pornography and masturbating actually weakens the region of our brain known as the cingulate cortex—the region that is responsible for moral and ethical decision making and willpower.

The Brain Chemicals of Sex

In The Porn Circuit, Sam Black describes the various hormones and neurotransmitters involved when someone views porn and how each ingredient in this neuro-cocktail contributes to the problem:
  • When having sex or watching porn, dopamine is released into a region of the brain responsible for emotion and learning, giving the viewer a sense of sharp focus and a sense of craving: “I have got to have this thing; this is what I need right now.” It supplies a great sense of pleasure. The next time the viewer gets the “itch” for more sexual pleasure, small packets of dopamine are released in the brain telling the user: “Remember where you got your fix last time. Go there to get it.”
  • Norepinephrine is also released, creating alertness and focus. It is the brain’s version of adrenaline. It tells the brain, “Something is about to happen, and we need to get ready for it.”
  • Sex or porn also trigger the release of oxytocin and vasopressin. These hormones help to lay down the long-term memories for the cells. They “bind” a person’s memories to the object that gave him or her the sexual pleasure.
  • The body releases endorphins, natural opiates that create a “high,” a wave of pleasure over the whole body.
  • After sexual release serotonin levels also change, bringing a sense of calm and relaxation.
This system works the way it is supposed to work when you’re having sex with your spouse. Together you can experience a high, an alertness of sexual pleasure, and the deep calm afterwards (norepinephrine, endorphins, and serotonin). With each sexual embrace you are emotionally bonding to this person (oxytocin and vasopressin). Over time a craving for sex is transformed into a desire for one another (dopamine).
But short-circuits the system.


(Download The Porn Circuit for free.)

How Porn Hijacks the System

Multiple problems happen when porn is used. First, instead of forming a deep connection to a person, your brain ends up “bonding” to a pornographic experience. Your brain remembers where the sexual high was experienced, and each time you desire sexual stimulation, you feel a sharp sense of focus: I’ve got to go back to the porn.
In addition, pornography gives the brain an unnatural high. In a recent TEDx talk, physiology teacher Gary Wilson explained that when men look at porn, they experience surge after surge of dopamine in the brain. The brain eventually fatigues, stopping the production of dopamine, leaving the viewer wanting more but unable to reach a level of satisfaction. As a result, everyday pleasures stop causing excitement and the viewer seeks out more novel, more intense pornography to get the same high as before.
This imbalance in the brain leads to many problems: impotence with your spouse, frequent masturbation with very little satisfaction, anxiety, fatigue, lack of motivation, inability to concentrate, and escalating tastes for more bizarre or novel porn.


Porn-Induced Erectile Dysfunction Is A Growing Problem


ED Porn Induced Erectile Dysfunction Is A Growing ProblemHigh-speed Internet pornography users in their twenties are increasingly developing sexual performance problems (erectile dysfunction, delayed ejaculation). Said one young man,
“Lots of guys, 20s or so, can’t get it up anymore with a real girl, and they all relate having a serious porn/masturbation habit. Guys will never openly discuss this with friends or co-workers, for fear of getting laughed out of town. But when someone tells their story on a health forum, and there are 50-100 replies from other guys who struggle with the same thing, this is for real.”
Italian urologists recently confirmed the impotence-porn use connection via a large survey. Italian men suffer ‘sexual anorexia’ after Internet porn use. When interviewed about the survey, urologist Carlo Foresta (head of the Italian Society of Andrology and Sexual Medicine and professor at the University of Padua) mentioned that 70% of the young men seeking clinical help for sexual performance problems had been using Internet pornography habitually.
No one yet knows the percentage of Americans affected. However, youthful impotence has implications for condom use and safe sex.
According to Foresta, porn-related impotence is reversible. Yet it appears that recovery requires 4 to 12 weeks of avoiding intense sexual stimulation. Read one man’s recovery story: “Day 64: Successful, great, normal sex.” More recovery accounts.
Of those who ultimately recover by terminating pornography use, many had previously been to doctors, undergone numerous tests, and been declared “just fine” physically. Neither they nor their health care providers considered excessive porn use as a potential cause of their continued performance problems.
Most were assured that “masturbation cannot cause erectile dysfunction.” This was no doubt sound advice before masturbation was coupled with the constant novelty and hyperstimulation of today’s Internet erotic possibilities. However, it may no longer be valid given the effects of superstimuli on the brain.
Among those who recover, progression is surprisingly similar. When the users completely stop using pornography (and masturbation as well for a time, because it is initially so closely associated with porn fantasy), here’s what occurs:
1) Withdrawal symptoms and cravings: Immediately
2) Complete loss of libido and erections: Begins towards the end of week one.
3) Absence of libido and erections, increased flaccidity (“shrinking or lifeless penis”): Continues for 2-6 weeks, dependent upon age and severity of porn use.
4) Gradual return of morning erections, libido and spontaneous erections at other times, no more “semen leakage” during bowel movements, etc.
5) Complete recovery of erectile health, sexual desire for real partners, reports of extremely pleasurable sex, contented condom use even if it was once a problem.
Sufferers typically recover within eight weeks. Those in their late teens generally require a shorter period of avoiding sexual stimulation to bounce back, but they also tend to relapse more often, which extends their recovery. Older men may need a longer period without stimulation in order to recover, but are typically more disciplined. Either way, reports are encouraging:
“I am a 25-year old male, masturbating a lot from 13 and using porn from 14. Gradually, it took more to turn me on: bigger fantasies or harder porn, and I stopped getting hard without touching. During sex I would struggle to get an erection or keep it, especially for intercourse. Over the past 7 years I haven’t held down a relationship, and the main reason for me has been this problem. Now the good news: When I realized the cause, I immediately gave up porn. Over the last 6 weeks I held off masturbating as much as I possibly could. (My best record was 9 days!) It all paid off. I just went away with a girl for the weekend and it was the best ever. I don’t think I’m out of the woods yet. I still get pretty anxious from all the bad experiences over the years. But I just wanted to tell you all it can work, and it’s well worth it!”
“Week 12, age 36 – I’m actually totally impressed how HUGE I get. It has been kinda hard to ignore. I mean, my erections are ROCK HARD and ENORMOUS. I remember asking other guys who went before me about when they noticed the return of their full erections. Well, I think I got mine back.”
Those affected report that escalating pornography tastes preceded their symptoms. Escalation, their withdrawal symptoms during recovery, and the sequence and time-dependence of their recovery all point to a common cause of their impotence, namely overstimulation of the reward mechanism in the brain.
Animal models have established that the mesolimbic dopamine pathway dopaminergic neurons activate the hypothalamic erection centers. It’s likely that porn-induced ED is tied to desensitization of the mesolimbic dopamine pathway. This is a hallmark of all known addiction processes. For a science teacher’s explanation of the science behind porn-related erectile dysfunction, see this video presentation: Erectile Dysfunction and Porn.
Most men are astonished to learn that pornography use can be a source of sexual performance problems. Only after they experiment for themselves do they become fully convinced that pornography use was indeed the source of their dysfunction.

Tuesday, October 21, 2014

The cause of cheating

Who is not cheating....


This only my personal opinion...

Years ago, n so easy to cheat as is today. There was less resources.

Today all of us have smartphones with all kinds of chatrooms, apps, our email at a touch on a screen, social networks and the list goes on.

Previously people actually cared about their social status in actual social situations. Nowadays only importance is about how many followers you have.

Like seriously , who realy cares if you have 6 or 6 Million followers. You don't actually mean something to any of the 6 Million. It is just stats and "social" status.

Enough about that said. Back to cheating...

Relationships before was more involved. Couples weren't busy on their phones all the time and it was more difficult to have a relationship with a stranger.

You would actually have to meet someone to have an affair and really talk to them.

Now people just go ahead and send a nasty naked pic and there you have it.... Betrayal.

That other person doesn't really give a shit about you... Its all about the chase and the satisfaction of "winning".

And to top off the betrayal all phones have "locks" , password control, wipe memory, vaults etc to hide your sweet betrayal.

With a smartphone or any kind of internet at home your relationship is not safe at all.

Some people go looking for it and some people are just caught in the trap due to human nature and weakness.

Doesn't everybody feel great when one sexy hot girl or guy "wants" them and boost that fragile ego a little?

Mostly all of us love that attention and quickly fall inlove with a unreal FANTASY.

It doesn't always lead to one on one sex, but if it is possible it does.

In reality if you should date that other person it will become the same relationship you had with the lover you cheated on. Most relationships are the same. And 90 % of people need something more that FANTASY that doesn't really exist.

The best way to make a relationship last is to keep yourself away from temptations that is too easily found on the internet. Use your phone to phone people not to chat with cheap girls.

For example , I am a woman and I love to watch series on the internet. While I wait for the episode to load a add of a bored "housewife" comes up on the same page where she is already busy taking her clothes off.

For a man that is total temptation and tweaks their curiosity immediately. Unfortunately most men even the loyal ones will click on the add out of curiosity.

And like most things a chain reaction is activated... First maybe chat sites and light porn then it escalates.

Before you know it you boyfriend is addicted to porn or chatting with hotties or heaven knows what else.

You can do what you want to keep your hubby happy. But somewhere there will be a temptation lurking.

There just isn't enough filters and blocks to keep your relationship secure. 

Wednesday, October 8, 2014

People are to Gullible


People refer to themselves as “Christian”, but none of them really know who they are following.


For example Christmas…. In fact Christmas has NOTHING to do with Christ, whatsoever.


It is in fact a pagan religion taken on by the Roman-Christians in History.



It is a mixture of different pagan beliefs and was tied to Christ.
December 25 was a significant date for various early cultures. The ancient Babylonians believed the son of the queen of heaven was born on December 25. The Egyptians celebrated the birth of the son of the fertility goddess Isis on the same date, while ancient Arabs contended that the moon was born on December 24.

The Romans celebrated Saturnalia, a feast named for Saturn, god of agriculture, on December 21, the winter solstice in the northern hemisphere. They believed the shortest day of the year was the birthday of the sun. The Roman emperor Constantine was a member of the sun-cult before converting to Christianity in 312.

But if we got Christmas from the Roman Catholics, and they got it from paganism, where did the pagans get it? Where, when, and what was its real origin?

It is a chief custom of the corrupt system denounced all thru Bible prophecies and teachings under the name of BABYLON. And it started and originated in the original Babylon of ancient Nimrod! Yes, it stems from roots whose beginning was shortly this side of the Flood!

Nimrod, grandson of Ham, son of Noah, was the real founder of the Babylonish system that has gripped the world ever since — the system of organized competition — of man-ruled governments and empires, based upon the competitive and profit-making economic system. Nimrod built the tower of Babel, the original Babylon, ancient Nineveh, and many other cities. He organized this world's first kingdom. The name Nimrod, in Hebrew, is derived from "Marad," meaning "he rebelled." (Gen. 10:6, 8-12)

From many ancient writings, considerable is learned of this man, who started the great organized worldly apostasy from God that has dominated this world until now. Nimrod was so evil, it is said he married his own mother, whose name was Semiramis. After Nimrod's untimely death, his so-called mother-wife, Semiramis, propagated the evil doctrine of the survival of Nimrod as a spirit being. She claimed a full-grown evergreen tree sprang overnight from a dead tree stump, which symbolized the springing forth unto new life of the dead Nimrod. On each anniversary of his birth, she claimed, Nimrod would visit the evergreen tree and leave gifts upon it. December 25th, was the birthday of Nimrod. This is the real origin of the Christmas tree.

Thru her scheming and designing, Semiramis became the Babylonian "Queen of Heaven," and Nimrod, under various names, became the "divine son of heaven." Thru the generations, in this idolatrous worship, Nimrod also became the false Messiah, son of Baal the Sun-god. In this false Babylonish system, the "Mother and Child," (Semiramis and Nimrod reborn); became chief objects of worship. This worship of "Mother and Child" spread over the world. The names varied in different countries and languages. In Egypt it was Iris and Osiris. In Asia, Cybele and Deoius. In pagan Rome, Fortuna and Jupiterpuer. Even in Greece, China, Japan, and Tibet, the counterpart of the Madonna is to be found, long before the birth of Christ!

Thus, during the fourth and fifth centuries, when the pagans of the Roman world were "accepting" the new popular "Christianity" by the hundreds of thousands, carrying their old pagan customs and beliefs along with them, merely cloaking them with Christian-sounding NAMES, the Madonna and "Mother and Child" idea also became popularized, especially at Christmas time. Every Christmas season you'll hear sung and chanted dozens of times the hymn "Silent Night, Holy Night," with its familiar "Mother and Child" theme. We, who have been born in such a Babylonish world, reared and steeped in these things all our lives, have been taught to revere these things as holy, and sacred. WE NEVER QUESTIONED TO SEE WHERE THEY CAME FROM — WHETHER THEY CAME FROM THE BIBLE, OR FROM PAGAN IDOLATRY!

We are SHOCKED to learn the TRUTH — some, unfortunately, take offense at the PLAIN TRUTH! But God commands His faithful ministers, "CRY ALOUD, spare not, lift up thy voice like a trumpet, and SHOW MY PEOPLE THEIR TRANSGRESSIONS!" Isaiah 58:1. Shocking as these facts are, they are the plain facts of history and the Bible!

The real origin of Christmas goes back to the ancient Babylon. It is bound up in the organized apostasy with which Satan has gripped a deceived world these many centuries! In Egypt, it was always believed that the son of Iris (Egyptian name for "Queen of Heaven") was born December 25th. Paganism celebrated this famous birthday over most of the known world for centuries before the birth of Christ.

December 25th, is NOT the birthday of Jesus the true Christ! The apostles and early true Church never celebrated Christ's birthday at any time. There is no command or instruction to celebrate it in the Bible — rather, the celebrating of birthdays is a HEATHEN, not a Christian custom, believe it or not!

Nowhere does the Bible tell us to worship "Mother and Child." The apostles and early true Christians never did it! The Scriptures show an angel saying to Mary, "Hail, thou art highly favored, the Lord is with thee" — the addition "blessed art thou among women," is omitted in the best original manuscripts (in Greek). Elizabeth said to Mary, "Blessed art thou among women." And Mary herself said, "From henceforth all generations shall call me blessed" (Luke 1:28, 42, 48).

She was highly blessed by God, and this has been acknowledged by all generations from that time — but this does not mean she is to be deified, worshiped, made a divine being, when she was merely human. The widespread worship of Mary, as "the Mother of God," the doctrine of the immaculate conception, which refers to her as a counterfeit mediatrix between man and God, is a continuation of this ancient Babylonian idolatry, begun by the clever deceptions of Semiramis, wife of Nimrod! It is inextricably bound up with the "Christmas" idea!

Thus the ancient idolatrous "Chaldean Mysteries," founded by this wife of Nimrod, have been handed down thru the pagan religions into the Catholic Church under new Christian-sounding names, and from there into the Protestant denominations and on to all of us today!


Unfortunately most people will not listen to the truth and recon , Oh we are celebrating his birth etc.



Newsflash people, it seems that the devil is already in your heart as the “ angel of light”.